Misophonia triggers cause a wide range of feelings and reactions. We have all felt different emotions when triggered, and we have also noticed the intensity of a trigger can vary. The variety of triggers and subjective quality of their effects makes coping with triggers difficult.
Situations that produce a predictable result can be anticipated, planned for, and with experience, mitigated. But misophonia affects each person differently. Further, the same trigger can have a different effect on an individual depending on factors like tiredness, hunger, and general stress level.
Misophonia is a complex condition that people experience in a unique, changeable manner. Knowing this is essential to understanding both our behavior and how other people express the negative emotions of having the disorder.
When a person vents their frustration over being triggered, we may not recognize the trigger because we do not experience that particular trigger ourselves. Or we may not understand the level of emotion expressed over a trigger that we consider just an annoyance. Does this sound familiar?
People without misophonia do not understand our reactions to being triggered. Often, they do not even notice the sounds that we cannot ignore. This disparity in perception can be a source of conflict in interpersonal relationships. Shouldn’t we give our fellow group members the benefit of the doubt?
If a member describes significant distress over a trigger that we find somewhat tolerable, shouldn’t it be easy for us to relate and provide emotional support? They are not going to get empathy from the public.