It is important to note that it is not possible to think logically, talk calmly, be nice, etc., or act detached from a situation in which we are actively experiencing a TRIGGER EVENT. The very definition of misophonia suggests that we cannot ignore triggers, nor can we temper our feelings during a triggering event.
It’s easy to suggest what action a person should take while being triggered after the fact. Or when the trigger event isn’t in your trigger set. Or when it’s not happening to you or has never happened to you. We could say it’s similar to the concept of being an armchair referee. It is not a supportive gesture when one blames or shames a person with misophonia for how they react to their triggers. Or how they speak to those who are actively triggering them. Or when one expresses an opinion on how other people should behave under stress. Right or wrong doesn’t come into play here.
Since the purpose of the Misophonia Support Group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/misophoniasupport/) is to provide support to people with misophonia, the path is made clear. Members are encouraged to interact from a place of support. Not blame. Not shame. Not education. Just support. If that leaves one with no comment, that’s fine, in which case – it’s best to scroll by to the next post. But before scrolling, it’s always great to drop off a quick “I hear what you’re saying,” or “I get you, and I understand how that feels” type of reply.
The Misophonia Support Group’s philosophy of “We’re All in This Together” is very important. It reminds us why we come together in the first place. You may not know this or think about it, but there’s an actual reason why the group exists. It’s not a free-for-all clubhouse where anything goes. Its creation was in response to a need for support for people with misophonia. That’s its prime directive, as they say. That’s what we the members come together for, and anything posted that doesn’t tick the “support” box in some manner is probably veering off-topic.