The Symptoms & Triggers of Misophonia
The literal definition of misophonia is hatred of sound but a person with misophonia does not simply hate all sound. People with misophonia have specific symptoms and triggers and are sensitive to only certain sounds and occasionally to visual triggers. Any sound can become a problem to a person with misophonia but many are some kind of background noise. People call the collection of sounds that they’re sensitive to their trigger set. It is possible to add to one’s trigger set over time.
Exposure to a trigger sound elicits an immediate negative emotional response from a person with sound sensitivities. The response can range from moderate discomfort or annoyance to full-fledged rage and panic. Fight or flight reactions can occur. During a trigger event, a person may become agitated, defensive or offensive, distance themselves from the trigger, or act out in some manner.
I wrote this song a few years back. It’s titled “misophonia (n.)”. Misophonia (my-so-fonia) is a disorder which means: “hatred of sound”. Isn’t that ironic? My life revolves around sound in almost every way. Singing and playing instruments has always been one of my favorite ways to relieve stress, yet, other sounds make my life nearly impossible. Perhaps the worst thing about this disorder, is that it affects relationships in a negative way. Because of misophonia, my ears pick up sounds that most people gloss over. Every person makes noises, and with the noises they create a certain rhythm, or “song” if you will. Over time, the noises make relationships difficult, and either I have to leave- “I don’t want to hear your music anymore”- or the other person in the relationship has to change their lifestyle; “I won’t ask you to change, but won’t you change for me”. The closer I get to an individual, the harder it gets. Over the years, this burden has left me feeling incredibly helpless, and lonely. “Helpless” because I don’t know how to fix it. And “lonely” because I feel like I would only ruin someone’s life by becoming a part of it. How do I tell someone, with whom I’m madly in love, that I can’t stand the sound of their voice? This song is an attempt at expressing that frustration. Misophonia is when the afflicted’s brain activates an extreme “fight-or-flight” response when they hear certain trigger noises such as chewing, sniffing, coughing, etc. When I tell people about this, people tell me, “oh! I hate it when people chew loudly! It’s so annoying!” I agree, that it is annoying. But when I hear these trigger noises, my brain literally sends a signal to my suprarenal glands telling them to release massive amounts of adrenaline. All rationality goes out the window, and I’m left wanting to fight, or run away (hence, fight or flight). The reason why I majored in Neuroscience, was to attempt to understand my brain better. Now I’m understanding it better, but I haven’t been able to repair it. This disorder has been a part of my life since I was about 14 years old, and is up there with the most difficult things that I deal with day to day. Now, after having come to terms with this condition, I've realized something powerful. The things that I'm most proud of, have stemmed from decisions I've made because of Misophonia. While it's been incredibly difficult, I wouldn't be the person who I am today, if I didn't have this "thing" inside of me. So.. after everything, I'm grateful that I have it, because it has helped me discover who I truly am. A HUGE thank you to everyone who contributed to this project, Hannah for being an amazing actress, Paesha for your incredible filming, Katie for your master violin skills, Melissa for producing, and Kenz for doing EVERYTHING to make the audio come together! Recording, arranging, playing, mixing, did you guys listen to that chorus?! Kenz you freaking killed it! Also a huge thanks to Cindy (and family) for letting us use your house to film!
Posted by Corporate Marketing Studios on Wednesday, November 22, 2017
My Misophonia (feat) Rodger Carter – Mark Loughman
The sound of fingernails scraping down a chalkboard is unpleasant to many people. But this is a very mild example of what people with misophonia experience when exposed to a trigger sound. It lacks the intensity a misophonia sufferer experiences and doesn’t have a strong negative emotional component. Not liking something, even if very strongly, is unlikely to cause a person to feel like lashing out at the source of the offending sound. Also, it is unlikely to produce an actual fight or flight reflex.
The people closest to the person with misophonia often elicit the most problematic triggers. This can make personal relationships difficult and stressful. An environment known to include trigger sounds can limit social activities because the person with misophonia anticipates problems. Consequently, a person with misophonia can pull back from family and friends in an attempt to reduce the symptoms that they experience when triggered.
People with misophonia are aware that the sounds that trigger them don’t bother other people.
A person with misophonia does not always have any control over their work environment. A coworker munching on food may be too distracting or even produce a full-fledged panic attack. An environment that will not or cannot accommodate the needs of a sound sensitive person can result in anxiety for the person with misophonia. It may also challenge supervisory staff. At times, the sound environment can be enough of a problem to make keeping the job intolerable. A school environment can be similar; having a long-term negative impact if it interferes with the ability to learn or socialize.
When exposed to a trigger sound, some people feel the need to mimic what they hear. Mimicry is an automatic, non-conscious social phenomenon. It can have a calming effect and make the situation feel better to the person experiencing stress. There is a biological basis for how mimicry lessens adverse reactions to triggers because it evokes compassion and empathy.
People with misophonia can be reluctant to share their symptoms and triggers. To them, sharing can have uncertain outcomes. Sometimes, people purposefully mock those with sound sensitivities. Also, they may make exaggerated trigger sounds in order to intentionally cause distress. Unfortunately, some family, friends, co-workers, and others minimize the problem. A person with misophonia is sometimes told: “try to ignore that sound,” or “you’re just being difficult,” or “don’t let it get to you.” Suggestions like these are not helpful. It is not simply a matter of making a conscious decision. People with misophonia cannot ignore their triggers any more than a person with epilepsy can will themselves not to have seizures.
On the other hand, there are those who are supportive and offer encouragement. Anyone with a problem or difficulty appreciates a helping hand now and then. If you know someone with misophonia and want to help them cope with the disorder, all you need to do is ask what you can do to help.
List of Common Triggers
Please note, some say that reading about triggers has the potential to make one take on new triggers. This is only true for some people and is not universally expereinced by all people. Also, some people avoid hearing or imagining sample trigger sounds for the same reason. If you think that learning about new trigger sounds could in any way be a problem for you, then there’s no need to read the lists below.
Mouth and Eating: “ahhs” after drinking, burping, chewing, crunching (ice or other hard food), gulping, gum chewing and popping, kissing sounds, nail biting, silverware scraping teeth or a plate, slurping, sipping, licking, smacking, spitting, sucking (ice, etc), swallowing, talking with food in mouth, tooth brushing, flossing, tooth sucking, lip smacking, wet mouth sounds, grinding teeth, throat clearing and jaw clicking.
Breathing/Nasal: grunting, groaning, screaming, loud or soft breathing, sniffling, snorting, snoring, sneezing, loud or soft talking, raspy voices, congested breathing, hiccups, yawning, nose whistling and wheezing.
Vocal: humming, muffled talking, nasally voices, overused words such as um or ah (repeated words), sibilant sounds (S, P, T, CH, K, B sounds), singing, gravelly voices, bad singing, soft whisper-like voices and whistling.
Environmental: clicking from texting, keyboard/mouse, TV remote, pen clicking, writing sounds, papers rustling/ripping, ticking clocks, texting and cell phone ringtone.
Utensils/metals: dishes clattering, fork scraping teeth, silverware hitting plates or other silverware and rattling change in pockets.
Plastic: water bottle squeezing/crinkling, breaking hard plastic and bouncing balls.
Wrappers: plastic bags crinkling/rustling, plastic bags opening or being rubbed and crinkling food packages.
Cars: sitting idling for long periods of time, beep when car is locked, car doors slamming, keys banging against steering column and turn signal clicking.
Heavy equipment: lawnmowers, leaf blower, air conditioners and chain saws.
Impact sounds: other people’s voices, muffled bass music or TV through walls, doors/windows being slammed and basketball thumps.
Animal noises: dogs barking, bird sounds, crickets, frogs, dogs or cats licking, drinking, slurping, eating, whining, dogs scratching themselves and trying to bite their fleas and claws tapping.
Baby: Baby crying, babbling, adults using baby talk and kids yelling.
TV: loud TV or radio.
Body Movement related: Foot shuffling (dry feet on floor/carpet) or tapping, finger snapping, foot dragging, heels, flip flops, knuckle/joint cracking, eye blinking, nail biting and clipping, eating, chewing, fidgeting, hair twirling, movements out of the corner of eyes, repetitive foot or body movements, jaw chewing/movement.